Difficulty trusting, fear of being misused or rejected, harbouring jealousy, and vindictiveness, defensively stone walling, having to argue and prove we're right, feeling easily hurt or offended and blaming others for our pain- these are just a few of the ways that our insecurity about being loved or lovable shows up.Love means warmth, openness to one another, allows us to make real contact, to take delight in and appreciate, warmth is love basic expression, love essence is like rainbow, passion, joy, contact, communication, kindness , caring, understanding , dedication, and devotion. When the presence of love is absent, something often feels sad, not quite right, something seems to be missing, n it's hard to find much joy, we easily fall pray to meaninglessness, anxiety or despair. Love is the central force that holds our whole life together and allows it to function.life is love and love is life. Have to ask Is it me? What did I do wrong? Is there someone else in the picture? The 4 no no that commit in a relationship: 1) playing the blame game- blaming the other party whenever there is an argument is a definite no-no. It is all right to admit that you were in the wrong. Pushing the blame to each other will not help. It may even turn into bad habit. Instead of pointing fingers, sit together and re-evaluate what went wrong. 2) bringing ex into equation- you + him = relationship; you + him + ex = tragic relationship. Comparing your ex with your current love will only make him a future ex too? Why? No partner wants to hear about how ur fantastic ex was, how he was more attentive, or how he would wait for you to end your lessons before going home together. How fantastic can your ex be if you are no longer together? 3) avoiding confrontation - you know there's a problem. You can see the cracks in your relationship yet you would rather not talk about it. Can it go away? No, it can't. Sure, a confrontation may lead to an arguement, stir up negative emotions (and a headache) but you will find in it a solution and a relieved heart. It's better to solve it than let the relationship be strained further by the lack of communication. 4) taking love for granted-

Tire

After whole day at work，feeling tire, wanted to slp but I can't be able to sleep, don't know y? Y i only can see people get ur own happiness but I can't have mine? every gift r the same, hope their bf really dote n care for them， im such a failure. Wat should I do to get wat I hope for?

在他的心目中， 我没有第位。

Concentrate

Dun think too much, concentrate. Keep think of incident happen.

Surprise from ....

I'm working and get to know from ... That got D24 durian will be deliver to my office . I thought is real durians than I tell that durians smelly cannot be brought to office . He say hehe n than around 3-4 plus, a guy call me n ask me my postal code than I ask him where did he call from? He mention starhub n I'm so curious . After a while the durians that .. Mention arrive and sign by my boss, so Ma lu。 my boss pretend to ask me things Like regarding my work . Was so surprise actually Is a bear with roses from ... . Touched lo. Bec he is a wood in my eyes all along . Hehe

新的一年新的开始2011

New year is a new start for all. I hv aim n plans for my future，im not young and it really needs improvement. I need to change my jealousy but provided he give me security . Sincere ，caring, loving , reduce bad temper, honest , faithful and loyal . '其实他不懂女人心。让我觉得他没诚意。 希望他有所改变，他说话没礼貌，脾气暴燥。他生气的时候， 象一只笨牛， 不会解释。 但是我觉得他有时没风度， 希望他能改 。他会在乎我说的每一句话吗？如果有一天他把我给气走， 他会追过来道歉吗？ 他会知错吗？他会在乎我吗？

Valentine day to all year 2011

Today is valentine day. I hope all the couples will be loving n caring for one another. Loyal to their own partner . Hope everyday is valentine day. As wat I know romantic guy will never let their partner suffer because he will try many ways to pleased her and make her feel happy. Girls happiness is so important that some guy never know, coz really got guy is a wood lo. Guys are greedy , he never contented with what he hv. Guys mindset is hv many gf as possible. But they nv think of consequences. I wander in this world, dun know got a guy truly n sincere love only one girl or not ? So envy the girl. She is lucky. Anyway 我祝天下有情人终成眷属。