Irene - Out of Comfort Zone

--> Hey, i have the same problem with me and my bf right now...i love him to death, and i trust him with everything BUT girls...maybe its because i am insecure about myself but if you think that you are being reasonable with getting jealous then i think its ok...because it shows that you care enough to bring it to their attention so they guy wont do it again. If i were you, i would try to brush it off my shoulders and just tell him that you have a problem with whatever you have a problem with it. Dont get mad or pissed off or be dramatic about it..get a kind of "whatever" attitude about the situation..things will go alot smoother, trust me:) my bf got a phone call from his ex gf, and i started thinking bad things about him, assuming that he has been up to no good..stuff that can really cause a dent in a relationship...but he calmed me down when he saw that i was looking like i was thinking too much about it. He told me he didn want ne other girl but me and that he loved me more than ever and that the girl just really likes him. So if our guy talks to other girls..i would be cautious of it and question him occasionally about how close they are to him..and if girls talk to him , then just compliment yourself on finding a good catch of a bf:) Also, if your bf loves you or cares about you to any degree..he will listen and hear you out about the problems you have with him..and he WILL try to fix them...if he doesnt care what happens..then hes not worth your time or worry. Anonymous

--> I'm going through this now....jealousy is a very bad thing as part of a relationship...it hurts you a lot to see your bf chatting and flirting with other girls...he just doesn't realise that your getting hurt and upset by seeing him doing this.....well i'm over with my bf but i still love him...he's got a few girls after him who he flirts with a lot....which makes me upset. I try not to show this as i want him to feel that i have moved on....but i haven't, that is why i try to do the same chat more to my guy mates...even the other day i did this i flirted with my guy mate...he started saying oh connection eye....which means there was a sign of jealously there, but he just tried not to show it.... Anonymously


--> I have the same issue as u girls. Im 15 and ive been with my b/f for 10 months now. Hes absoloutly amazing but he is very protective over me and if i talk to other boys he gets annoyed etc. But he talks to other girls alot and i get really hurt by it as he does when i talk to other boys. We are crazy inlove about eachother and have talked about this for ages because he wants to fix the problem because he says im the only girl he wants and loves. I know he loves me and i try to trust him but i always get jelous :( i dont know what to do anymore i hate being jealous! Anonymous
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--> I'm with bf only 3 months but everytime quarrel bec of other girl.. His mouth r itchy.. Yesterday he go chalet n saw my bro Gf sister friend are all pretty n all wear very short. He will told me that he wanted to chase them, woo them n dumped me? I get sad, upset n angry.. He say this not first or second time.. I tell him that I dun like to heard this but he still say.. After I told him that I not happy, he say me u wan childish go ahead.. Is his problem but I just wanted to heard him say?Only wait him to say sorry, I will not mention other girl anymore.. At least I feel better.. But he never n trying to act blur n avoid my qns n he dun know what I wan. That night I can't get to sleep n yet he can sleep so soundly .. What should I do? does he still bother about me?