曾经有人说我是一个幸福的人。
因为我拥有全世界。
 
也有人问我后悔吗？
我认为路是自己选的。
人一定要往前看。

我曾经也觉得我是一个幸福的人。
就算是天塌陷下也没关系。
因为有你。

我们应该坚持自己想要的？
或者拥有自己应该拥有的？

幸福的定义又是什么？

进来做事力不从心。
一定要专心才行。 Labels: Irene yong

Random thoughts:

Disagreement over the same thing again and again. When can we reach a consensus over this issue?

Don't ask me what i want in life. It's too early for me to choose my path.

Quotes:

- Laugh as much as u breathe, love as much as u live.

- There are many things in live that will catch your eye, but only a few will catch your heart. Pursue those.

- Don't let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was.
Labels: Irene yong

我会学着放下我们..

共同的回已.

经历的过去.

拥有的快乐以悲伤.

忘记一个人很难.

但希望你也能学习放下.

唯有放下才能走得更远更快乐.

一定要过得比我幸福!!!

--> Hey, i have the same problem with me and my bf right now...i love him to death, and i trust him with everything BUT girls...maybe its because i am insecure about myself but if you think that you are being reasonable with getting jealous then i think its ok...because it shows that you care enough to bring it to their attention so they guy wont do it again. If i were you, i would try to brush it off my shoulders and just tell him that you have a problem with whatever you have a problem with it. Dont get mad or pissed off or be dramatic about it..get a kind of "whatever" attitude about the situation..things will go alot smoother, trust me:) my bf got a phone call from his ex gf, and i started thinking bad things about him, assuming that he has been up to no good..stuff that can really cause a dent in a relationship...but he calmed me down when he saw that i was looking like i was thinking too much about it. He told me he didn want ne other girl but me and that he loved me more than ever and that the girl just really likes him. So if our guy talks to other girls..i would be cautious of it and question him occasionally about how close they are to him..and if girls talk to him , then just compliment yourself on finding a good catch of a bf:) Also, if your bf loves you or cares about you to any degree..he will listen and hear you out about the problems you have with him..and he WILL try to fix them...if he doesnt care what happens..then hes not worth your time or worry. Anonymous

--> I'm going through this now....jealousy is a very bad thing as part of a relationship...it hurts you a lot to see your bf chatting and flirting with other girls...he just doesn't realise that your getting hurt and upset by seeing him doing this.....well i'm over with my bf but i still love him...he's got a few girls after him who he flirts with a lot....which makes me upset. I try not to show this as i want him to feel that i have moved on....but i haven't, that is why i try to do the same chat more to my guy mates...even the other day i did this i flirted with my guy mate...he started saying oh connection eye....which means there was a sign of jealously there, but he just tried not to show it.... Anonymously


--> I have the same issue as u girls. Im 15 and ive been with my b/f for 10 months now. Hes absoloutly amazing but he is very protective over me and if i talk to other boys he gets annoyed etc. But he talks to other girls alot and i get really hurt by it as he does when i talk to other boys. We are crazy inlove about eachother and have talked about this for ages because he wants to fix the problem because he says im the only girl he wants and loves. I know he loves me and i try to trust him but i always get jelous :( i dont know what to do anymore i hate being jealous! Anonymous
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--> I'm with bf only 3 months but everytime quarrel bec of other girl.. His mouth r itchy.. Yesterday he go chalet n saw my bro Gf sister friend are all pretty n all wear very short. He will told me that he wanted to chase them, woo them n dumped me? I get sad, upset n angry.. He say this not first or second time.. I tell him that I dun like to heard this but he still say.. After I told him that I not happy, he say me u wan childish go ahead.. Is his problem but I just wanted to heard him say?Only wait him to say sorry, I will not mention other girl anymore.. At least I feel better.. But he never n trying to act blur n avoid my qns n he dun know what I wan. That night I can't get to sleep n yet he can sleep so soundly .. What should I do? does he still bother about me?

My boyfriend keep mention to me other girl are pretty or hot.. It really bothers me, what should I do? Is he disrespect me?

-->I agree it is disrespectful.. Maybe in the past she was always put down because of the way she looks and has a really low self-esteem... And it's not jelousy. But she's just looking down on herself wishing she were better so she could please him when he looks at her.. And she wishes for him to look at her like she's worth the very best and no other woman is as beautiful as she is in his eyes...

Everyone is different.. Everyone has a different past.. And in a relationship they should try to be excepting of what hurts the other.. If he cares about your feelings.. He'll stop mention again.


-->If a man truly loves you he won't want to hurt you and make you jealous. I don't buy it that men are programmed to do that. I'm a woman and I feel woman let men get away with this behavior! period! no excuses


--> I think it's disrespectful for my husband to comment about other girls when I'm around. It has nothing to do with being insecure or afraid that he would cheat on me, because realistically, a strange girl he sees on the street is not going to suddenly hump him because he finds her attractive.
Not only is this disrespectful to me, I think, but also for the person he's commenting on. Women are more than how they look, and I get just as bent out of shape when he comments on a good looking woman as I would if he were commenting on an unattractive women, or an unattractive guy for that matter. I think it's sexist to think that a girl would automatically feel flattered by and okay with whatever a guy says about her as long as it's something nice about her appearance. I just think we have more to think about than if some random guy thinks we're hot.
If the girl he's with is cool with, no problem. I can see where some women would be comfortable with it, because it's not that big of deal for everyone, I just hate that it's an automatic assumption that if the girl gets pissed for being treated that way it means that she's a high strung ball of insecurities. If my husband wants to act that way around his buds, or if I'm around a bunch of dudes who aren't my husband and they act that way, that's his and their own thing, but I appreciate it if he can refrain while I'm around because I deserve common respect from him.


--> Yeah, that sounds like convo you have with your homeboys, not with your girl. I'd never tell my girlfriend that I think another chick is hot unless its LC from The Hills. But she knows that I think she's hot already so its a non-issue. It just seems disrespectful to throw that at her.

--> Well personally if its like a celeb i wouldnt mind so much but if its like random girls then thats rude. It really depends on like how his attitude about it is like if he says " shes was pretty." no big deal but if it's " DAMN!! that girl so so fuckin hot did you see the ass on her!?" and just keeps talking bout it then thats pretty much poo-tastic.
Either way tell him it bugs you. If he cares and respects you enough he will stop. If he doesnt then hes prob not worth your time.

--> Thanks Dektora, because obviously Melissa is a lot better than most women. Seriously, it's one thing to look and it's another to comment. That's pretty rude. What the hell does he gain from making his comments? What exactly is he looking for? His girlfriend to agree? He's purposely trying to make her jealous...Like all douchey guys do.

--> I think it is disrespectful to say that sort of thing in front of your girlfriend. My current boyfriend used to talk about how other girls and celebrities are hot. He told me to just "get over it" but I plainly told him that I would never talk about another hot guy, or celebrity guy that I think is attractive in his presence simply because I respect him enough not to say those sort of things. I expect that level of respect in return. It has nothing to do with being insecure. I know other women are attractive, I notice them too. But it does not need to be discussed. It is just how you would never talk about your sex life in the presence your parents. In my opinion this sort of behavior should be avoided simply because it is inappropriate.

--> My boyfriend talks about other girls sometimes. He talks about they're bra sizes. For example, last night we were on the phone and he was talking about this girl at his school, that he has told me about before (we go to different schools). He says she always wears a hoodie, but that day she didn't, and he noticed what big breasts she had. It kind of made me angry, well no, i did make me angry. Its okay if he notices other girls, but when he tells me about it, he makes me feel insecure and like he wants to be with someone else. He's also talked about his past relationships, one time he told me about his first make-out session with this girl he used to be with, in full detail! He can tell I get annoyed when he does it, and I know he wouldn't cheat on me, but it makes me feel like he is. I don't know what to do, I mean its not like I want to break up with him over this, but it makes me so mad! Its not like I don't trust him, because I do, but I just want this to stop.


--> I already asked my boyfriend after the first several times he commented on other women if I wasn't giving him enough attention. Did I misunderstand when he said he wanted a girlfriend? Does he prefer me to be one of his buddies? He said no to all three-that I was great and he loved me. Then I pointed out how every time he said something stupid in front of me about how another women looked, it put distance between us. He still doesn't get it because he still does it. I have been looking for an apartment ever since because I can't see myself with someone this dense.

--> In my personal opinion, looking is expected, and inner thoughts or comments are always okay. But verbalizing appreciation should ONLY be done when in the company of one's friends. If a girlfriend is present with her man (with other dudes or without), keep your mouth shut. It would be disrespectful to comment on another woman once you've asked THIS gal to be YOURS. It would be equally disrespectful for her to comment on other men in your presence. It may have nothing to do with jealousy or insecurity...it's about respect and dignity. Act like a man, not like an ape.
Professionally, couples will vary on what they find appropriate or inappropriate. So if there's friction or disagreement in this area, get talkin! Make your wishes or feelings known. If he/she can't respect your wishes, move it along. There are others out there who will. It isn't LOVE if he can't make small alterations for the good/wellness of the relationship.

--> I recently experienced this with my boyfriend. After putting up with it for a year, I finally told him that it hurt me. He would always tell me how much he loved me and never wanted to hurt me, and when he heard how bad I felt about it he stopped. His excuse at first was that he just wanted me to be jealous so he could feel that I loved him, but later he acknowledged that he made a stupid mistake by making the comments and told me again that he would never do anything to hurt me. I am still getting over the things he said, but our relationship is getting better because he changed.
I don't recommend ignoring it like I did because it may never stop if he thinks you don't mind or find it fun. If you love him and want the relationship to work TELL him how you feel and if he loves you he will understand how bad he is making you feel and quit. It really comes down to if you want the relationship to work or not; A happy relationship does not have room for constant pain.

--> I'm going through the same type of thing. My bf will say how pretty certain celebrities are. The other night we were at the movies and he said " now THATS a pretty woman! " , just like that. It's not just the one comment though, he also commented that he could never imagine how any guy could cheat on Sandra Bullock due to the way she looks?... and when we first met, he made sure to tell me how 'very beautiful' his ex wife was. We went to a concert a few weeks ago and he constantly was looking around, ogling at other women. I've noticed this several times. I feel kind of childish saying something about it but truly, I'm mature enough to draw my own conclusions and I know most women would be very uncomfortable with this type of behavior too. It's just rude.Some thoughts should just remain our own and if we love someone, it is our responsibility to protect their feelings.
I know he'd hate it if I did it but I wont stoop to that level or treat someone else the way I hate being treated because them I'm no better. Instead, I'll just leave him and find someone who thinks I'm the most beautiful women in the room. Yes, I want it all. 100%, because I deserve it.

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痛苦

好男友不会让女友烦恼，不开心。 我要的是男友把我当做是他的宝贝。他太过份了。

My last 2 days at SAA-GE

My last day at SAA-GE will be on this coming thursday which is 21 April 2011. Two more days to go... I have join here for more than six months and I have learned alot of things.. I join Student registry officer (SRO) on 4 October 2010 to 2 Jan 2011... In this department, my jd is to help international student to apply student pass via ICA solar web... Key in student particulars, need their parents employment letter n bank statement from their parents. Student certificate, birth cert etc... . Terminate/ cancellation of student student's pass. Conduct English placement test for students to test their level of English to enroll in CEP, I'm the invigilator of EPT that gives student listening test n grammar etc.... On 3 Jan 2011 I join Attendance department to monitoring international student attendance in all courses like CEP, CAT, ACCA and ATTS... Also need to issue warning letters to students below 90%.. Phone interview students and SMS student, conduct interview for students low attendance and if it rePeats,school will cancel student student's pass without informing. Conduct random check occasionally for CAT and ACCA classes .. Do spot check on student in the library to check student's pass before signing their attendance... have to be scheduled counter duty one week within a month.. During counter duty that week.. Monday is off duty.. Tues to fri comes work at ten till 7 plus closing.. Sat need to be back at 9 to 3.15pm.. Thanks to those colleagues help me n concern me during my tenure here, is my pleasure to know you all, I have to thanks to jasmine and li hong for the patience giving to me... Huifang, saedah, emmerline, Elise, serene, isabella, nelson, yeo Ai ling, li ling, magraet, naniek, Evelyn, intAn, kelly, jacequaline, laksha, Ivan yew, malcom and Zhi qiang... Michelle, etc... And thanks to my lunch kakis, yijun, Brian wong, lynnette, agnes, Maggie etc,, thanks all. I will miss you all..

我们之间有改变吗？

我不喜欢他对我这样的态度。 他对我说脏话，我不能够忍受。 我真的渴望我们的爱情是美好的。 或者他没把我当女友看与对待。 如果，或许他如果真的爱我，他会道歉然后不会犯同错。 让老天决定我的幸福。 我已经没心情做认何事情了。 对爱情没信心了，对我本身的外表更不用说。 moody....是我太单纯容易相信或被男生欺负吗？ 渴望被爱真的这么难吗？

Need to feel loved n appreciated

I'm just want to have a happy relationshiP that giving in to one another... Just a simple caring word. Is it so difficult? To ur Gf? Do u really treat her as the only girl you love? Or never? I appreciated n know that this 3 days he is beside me... but I just need him to put me in his heart. Am I overbroad? I know he dun wish to meet me daily. I understand bec he works tire already plus study .... But can he not neglect Gf feeling?? Can he don't simply say break off... u can just ignore ur Gf? Than wat kind of bf r u? Y is that u treat Gf that way when Gf just want your attention more... Does it wrong??Keep mention I'm childish but do he know I'm the type of girls need more attention. Since he chose me go be his Gf than he shall change n I shall change to better too... Not both keep quarrel...yes, I shouldn't be demanding. I just dun wish to be quarrel with this little thing... My request is simple.. If u wan me be ur Gf. Just put me in ur heart n stop quarreling... Everybody need to be care n concern. I should not talk rude to neighbor is my fault... I wish that I can talk to her on better attitude n manner... but I also hope others talk to me with better attitude n manner I wan to go Ecp u bring me go n also entertain my bro n neighbor. I know u do ur part... I'm too greedy... I shouldn't ask for more.. But I just worry I'm not in ur heart. As long as I'm in ur heart n u will not find others... N will not fall for others girls. ..

Give unconditionally

If you give because you want credit for what you have done or give, it reduces the impact of giving. Remember, true giving is unconditional. Nature gives unconditionally. The flower gives it's fragrance, and the sun it's light, without seeking anything in return. True love is to love others not because they are loveable or bec they love you, but simply bec you love... When your giving is unconditional , you receive intangible benefits. When to give? The Ans is today... To give to others, you have to give to yourself.we simply believe that all of us are happier when we strive to be better people. We also believe perfection Is impossible. But progress is possible and healthy. Giving is beautiful experience. By giving, you can live to your potential, avoid loneliness, become fearless, touch your spirit, and find meaning and fulfillment.

Honest

Be honest, a relationship cannot be based on lies. People are afraid to share the truth and often find it difficult to do so. However, honesty is a core value in the deepest and strongest relationships. Give love everyday, in everything u do. Kindness is an expression of love, care n concern. Love is active and not passive, and you should often express it. Every relationship that succeeds requires some degree of compromise on both sides. It takes courage to show love, but it is worth the effort and risk. One thing you can do for yourself and the other person is to give some thought to why the relationship is having problems. There are 9 steps to heal a damaged relationship:- make a commitment to improve it, visualize how it will be different, recognize that it may take time, and be persistent. Guys must take the initiative, recognize that you hv to change first.don't look for solutions first, look for emotions, etc. All human begins needs to be respected. One way to show deep respect is to listen attentively. When you listen actively, you understand the person talking to much better and so are able to communicated better. This let's the other person feel validated, understood and perhaps even loved. What you gives does not have to be an object or to have any tangible value. Our heartfelt giving is frequently in words-not words from our mouth but words from our heart. Not everyone knows how to give with humility. Compassion has been defined as"your pain in my heart". You cab feel someone's pain in your heart when you have taken the time to listen carefully and attentively.

The power of giving

The benefits of giving:- there are certain things that can gain by making giving a greater part of our life. "relationships, a feeling of security, jobs, good health, a sense of empowerment, pride and accomplishment, happiness, peace and love"....true giving begins with love, love is most powerful force in the world. Love is something all human needs.giving the gifts of compassion, understanding and unconditional love is so important. It helps to break the negative cycle in relationship and leads to a revival of love and commitment, bec when people receive love, they Learn to give love. Love allows u to make sacrifices. Love of Money is not love. The key to a successful date is having time to talk, to touch, to notice the changes in the other person. To articulate your thoughts n feelings. You are giving attention, time and focus to one of the most important relationship in your life.giving love always take effort. Laughter is a sign of life n it creates happiness.

生病的那三天

在我生病的那三天，晚上都是他陪着我，照顾我。 星期天早上，他去和他朋友见个面，喝喝茶，但是不知道现在在哪里？ 间讯和打电话给他都没听。 他到家了没？ 到家了又没让我报个平安。 我一边睡一边在哭。又梦到我的妈妈。 然后起身打给他又没接。现在我又发冷。我感觉被忽略。

发高烧

昨天我发高烧，非常辛苦。今天我去polyclinic看医生。拿了一天的mc. 我的心理也不好受， 我的心真的受伤了。

我不应该陷入这段感情。 因为我太爱他了， 但是没感受到他的爱。 不管发生什么事，他都会发脾气对我大吼大叫。根本不听我的解释。 虽然我有时太过分，误会和怨枉他跟别的女生说话。但这是女孩子的本姓，因为他很少跟男生说话这样温柔。 我已经跟他说了，我相信他那是男生不是女生，他还对我发脾气，喊我。 他的母亲听到，他就对他的母亲大喊说，不用理我，我是疯女人。 哪个女人受的了？ 他根本不需要我当他的女友，不把我放在心里。我实在太伤心了。

我要变变变，从丑小鸭变天鸸！

女生快乐或不快乐是因为身边的男友懂的哄， 体贴， 关怀。 我也想有这样的男友。 每个女生都会希望。 如果一个男生根本不会哄不会体贴不会迁疚， 那为什么要让女生痛苦呢？如果一个女生遇到了懂得哄，关心，不逃避的男友。她就是太幸运了。比中马票还开心。 真是太羡慕了。一句老话， 同人不同命啊！嗨！！！真的是差太多了，每个人对爱情观也不一样。 被疼的感觉是不一样的。 真的。 懂得付责任的男生永远不会逃避一切。 多么希望我的他, 是这种男人。有些男生要找个女朋友只是要性担没爱与关怀。 但有些男生找个女友是为了照顾她一辈子。 全部关于女生的事他都会第一时间想知道，解决。 会紧张就代表在呼。爱一个人就要付出一切。不可以利用对方。天啊， 我需要被爱被疼， 因为我也是个女生啊。而且遇到对的人， 就像是天天过情人节以样的甜甜密密感觉。 好羡慕， 我知道我不能改变一个人，但只好改变自己去得到我应对的。 老天爷，我求求你， 请你给我多一点时间去把我自己变到美丽懂人去电那个好男人吧！真是的，不变到迷人都不行。我要变变变，从丑小鸭变天饿！

其实你不懂我的心

男人男人多希望你是好人， 多希望有你的真， 让我不必在心疼。多么希望你是对的人。捉摸不定的爱情就象是在地狱的感觉。 男女朋友之间应该帮彼此解决问题。一起分担，一起去解决和面对彼此的问题。 并不代表是烦。可以讨论和给意见。不是在干塞你， 不是让你觉得没自由。爱情就是这样子，互相关心彼此，在呼对方的感受和珍惜彼此的关心。

自己对爱情的观点

爱情对我来说本来是很甜蜜的事，两个人彼此相爱，彼此关心，但是爱情这东西没有保障。因为了解彼此久了，意见不同就开始争吵。 吵久了，伤害彼此的感情， 感情就淡了。 对我来说， 爱一个人，须要为他或她付出一切。 那么对方才能感受到爱，要为将来打算，爱一个人你会很舍得买东西给对方，是男或女。对自己喜欢的人不会吝啬，女生会希望男友多关心，多专一，安全感最重要，体贴，细心，温柔，尊敬。 不能一脚踏两船，女生往往必较吃亏，一但女生爱一个男生，她会投入在这段感情。 但男生的想法是现在我可以爱你但是我不能保正我永远爱你。 男人往往是自私的，见一个爱一个。 女友就没保障和安全感了。

He chides to leave. Wats more to say?

Still feeling pain................ Without any care n concern. Dun think so much, concentrate on working tOmorrow n now dun think much n sleep, tomorrow will be better. Not feeling well, feel cold n think going to fall sick again.