lesson #2 : cherish the people who are still in your life before its too late

lesson #1 : Love each other or perish. after so long, your smell still lingers.
u know how much I love e way you smell.
everywhere I go it reminds me of u.

I know I shld nt be thinking about u.
but suddenly, I realized how much I miss u.

if you can hear me, pls tell me if you are doing fine.

I know u won't be able to read this.
Tootpid(stupid) me :( sometimes I wander why you want me when u still throw temper to me? If u sincere wants to be with a girl, u will talk softly.... N take care of her... N not don't bothers...

this is so true..

有人说男人其实是最专一的.
因为从20岁到80岁的男人都喜欢20岁左右年轻漂亮的女人.
这是个笑话,但也是个事实.

有人说现在的年轻女孩都很现实,眼中没有爱情.
称着年轻嫁个有钱的,一辈子也就有个归宿了.


男人有时好比洋葱,要想看到洋葱的心就需要一层一层去剥。
但是女人在剥的过程会不断流泪剥到最后才知道，
原来洋葱是没有心的.
Labels: :: Irene Yong


Written at Monday, June 27 2011 1.28am

Quotes From You:

"Real loss only occurs when you lose something that you love more than yourself"

"Memories are the best souvenirs"

"I should have been more careful. I was blinded by your halo, so I never noticed the horns"

"Breaking up is not a stupid thing; instead it makes you a better person and realize your mistakes"

"Letting go of someone dear to you is hard, but holding on to someone who doesn't even feel the same is much harder. Giving up doesn't mean you are weak! It only means that you are strong enough to let go!"

"Someday we'll know if love can move a mountain. Someday we'll know why the sky is blue. Someday we'll know why I wasn't meant for you."

"Deep down you know it's best for yourself, but you hate the thought of that someone being with someone else."

"I wish you could look at me and see the person you once loved instead of the person you have grown to hate."

"The saddest love is to love someone, to know that they still want you, but the circumstances don't let you have them."

"If you ever get lonely and you want to see my face, look at the sky, smell the air, close your eyes, and you'll find me."
Labels: :: Irene yong

♥♥ When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us. ♥♥ Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile. ♥♥ May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy. ♥♥ The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

♥♥ Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.

♥♥ The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

♥♥ When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.
Labels: Irene yong

* Everything came too late
** Theres nth we can do
*** This might be Fate
**** We are meant to be Friends but not Lovers
***** A lesson Ive learnt
****** Express ur love bravely
******* b4 its too late

Dying inside cause I can't stand it
Make or break up
Can't take this madness

If you dont' know me at this point
Then I highly doubt you ever will

And I know we said let go
But I kept on hanging on

It cuts so deep
It hurts down to my soul

We both know our heart is breaking
Can we learn from our mistakes

希望你从这个世界上消失。
我不讨厌你，
真的不讨厌你。

心里很闷
想要跟人说说话
但有谁愿意听呢？

最深的秘密
对着别人，
我真的说不出口。
你能了解我的感受吗？

我总是在夜晚的时候想很多，也因为这样，经常失眠。
白天不想去想的事，到了晚上还是逃避不了。
其实，我也喜欢这样。
可以把一整天开心，不开心的事统统想一遍。
开心，会感恩。
不开心，会问自己为什么。
然后再想出个答案来。
把不开心的事忘掉，
第二天，又是一个新的开始。

“也许，有些事情不是渺小得可以控制与掌握。
但，至少我可以决定，
怎么看待自己的今天。”

人生就是為了找尋愛的過程

人生就是為了找尋愛的過程，

每個人的人生都要找到四個人

第一個是自己,

第二個是你最愛的人，

第三個是最愛你的人，

第四個是共度一生的人.

首先會遇到你最愛的人，然後體會到愛的感覺；

因為了解被愛的感覺，所以才能發現最愛你的人；

當你經歷過愛人與被愛，學會了愛，才會知道什麼是你需要的，

也才會找到最適合你，能夠相處一輩子的人。

但很悲哀的，在現實生活中，這三個人通常不是同一個人；

你最愛的，往往沒有選擇你；

最愛你的，往往不是你最愛的；

而最長久的，偏偏不是你最愛也不是最愛你的，

只是在最適合的時間出現的那個人。

你，會是別人生命中的第幾個人呢？

沒有人是故意要變心的，他愛你的時候是真的愛你，

可是他不愛你的時候也是真的不愛你了，

他愛你的時候沒有辦法假裝不愛你；

同樣的，他不愛你的時候也沒有辦法假裝愛你 。

當一個人不愛你要離開你，

你要問自己還愛不愛他，

如果你也不愛他了，千萬別為了可憐的自尊而不肯離開；

如果你還愛他，你應該會希望他過得幸福快樂，

希望他跟真正愛的人在一起，絕不會阻止，

你要是阻止他得到真正的幸福，就表示你已經不愛他了，

而如果你不愛他，你又有什麼資格指責他變心呢？

愛不是佔有，

你喜歡月亮，不可能把月亮拿下來放在臉盆裡，

但月亮的光芒仍可照進你的房間。

換句話說，你愛一個人，也可以用另一種方式擁有，

讓愛人成為生命裡的永恆回憶，

如果你真愛一個人，就要愛他原來的樣子─愛他的好，也愛他的壞：

愛他的優點，也愛他的缺點，

絕不能因為愛他，就希望他變成自己所希望的樣子，

萬一變不成就不愛他了。

真正愛一個人是無法說出原因的，

你只知道無論何時何地、心情好壞，你都希望這個人陪著你；

真正的感情是兩人能在最艱苦中相守，也就是沒有絲毫要求。

畢竟，感情必須付出，而不是只想獲得；

分開是一種必然的考驗，

如果你們感情不夠穩固，只好認輸，

真愛是不會變成怨恨的。

兩人在談情說愛的時候，

最喜歡叫對方發誓，許下承諾我們為什麼要對方發誓，

就是因為我們不相信對方，我們根本不相信情人，

而這些山盟海誓又很不切實際：

海枯石爛、地老天荒，都不能改變我對你的愛!

明知道海不會枯、石不會爛、地不會老、天不會荒；

就算會，也活不到那時候。

許下諾言的時候千萬注意，不要許下可以實現的諾言，

最好是承諾做不到的事，

反正做不到的，隨便說說也不要緊，

請記住：”不可能實現的諾言最動人”

在愛情裡，說的是一套，做的是另一套；

講的人不相信，聽的人也不相信。

你呢？找到了第幾個？

茫茫人海中，你遇見了誰？誰又遇見了你?
http://i387.photobucket.com/albums/oo320/myhideout_photos/tenki8.gif

i wanted to fight for it, but they told me i shld just give up and admit to fate.
*sigh*
i dun even have the mood to do anything, eat n sleep and it was meant to be a happy thing
*sob sob*

曾经有人说我是一个幸福的人。
因为我拥有全世界。
 
也有人问我后悔吗？
我认为路是自己选的。
人一定要往前看。

我曾经也觉得我是一个幸福的人。
就算是天塌陷下也没关系。
因为有你。

我们应该坚持自己想要的？
或者拥有自己应该拥有的？

幸福的定义又是什么？

进来做事力不从心。
一定要专心才行。 Labels: Irene yong

Random thoughts:

Disagreement over the same thing again and again. When can we reach a consensus over this issue?

Don't ask me what i want in life. It's too early for me to choose my path.

Quotes:

- Laugh as much as u breathe, love as much as u live.

- There are many things in live that will catch your eye, but only a few will catch your heart. Pursue those.

- Don't let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was.
Labels: Irene yong

我会学着放下我们..

共同的回已.

经历的过去.

拥有的快乐以悲伤.

忘记一个人很难.

但希望你也能学习放下.

唯有放下才能走得更远更快乐.

一定要过得比我幸福!!!

--> Hey, i have the same problem with me and my bf right now...i love him to death, and i trust him with everything BUT girls...maybe its because i am insecure about myself but if you think that you are being reasonable with getting jealous then i think its ok...because it shows that you care enough to bring it to their attention so they guy wont do it again. If i were you, i would try to brush it off my shoulders and just tell him that you have a problem with whatever you have a problem with it. Dont get mad or pissed off or be dramatic about it..get a kind of "whatever" attitude about the situation..things will go alot smoother, trust me:) my bf got a phone call from his ex gf, and i started thinking bad things about him, assuming that he has been up to no good..stuff that can really cause a dent in a relationship...but he calmed me down when he saw that i was looking like i was thinking too much about it. He told me he didn want ne other girl but me and that he loved me more than ever and that the girl just really likes him. So if our guy talks to other girls..i would be cautious of it and question him occasionally about how close they are to him..and if girls talk to him , then just compliment yourself on finding a good catch of a bf:) Also, if your bf loves you or cares about you to any degree..he will listen and hear you out about the problems you have with him..and he WILL try to fix them...if he doesnt care what happens..then hes not worth your time or worry. Anonymous

--> I'm going through this now....jealousy is a very bad thing as part of a relationship...it hurts you a lot to see your bf chatting and flirting with other girls...he just doesn't realise that your getting hurt and upset by seeing him doing this.....well i'm over with my bf but i still love him...he's got a few girls after him who he flirts with a lot....which makes me upset. I try not to show this as i want him to feel that i have moved on....but i haven't, that is why i try to do the same chat more to my guy mates...even the other day i did this i flirted with my guy mate...he started saying oh connection eye....which means there was a sign of jealously there, but he just tried not to show it.... Anonymously


--> I have the same issue as u girls. Im 15 and ive been with my b/f for 10 months now. Hes absoloutly amazing but he is very protective over me and if i talk to other boys he gets annoyed etc. But he talks to other girls alot and i get really hurt by it as he does when i talk to other boys. We are crazy inlove about eachother and have talked about this for ages because he wants to fix the problem because he says im the only girl he wants and loves. I know he loves me and i try to trust him but i always get jelous :( i dont know what to do anymore i hate being jealous! Anonymous
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--> I'm with bf only 3 months but everytime quarrel bec of other girl.. His mouth r itchy.. Yesterday he go chalet n saw my bro Gf sister friend are all pretty n all wear very short. He will told me that he wanted to chase them, woo them n dumped me? I get sad, upset n angry.. He say this not first or second time.. I tell him that I dun like to heard this but he still say.. After I told him that I not happy, he say me u wan childish go ahead.. Is his problem but I just wanted to heard him say?Only wait him to say sorry, I will not mention other girl anymore.. At least I feel better.. But he never n trying to act blur n avoid my qns n he dun know what I wan. That night I can't get to sleep n yet he can sleep so soundly .. What should I do? does he still bother about me?

My boyfriend keep mention to me other girl are pretty or hot.. It really bothers me, what should I do? Is he disrespect me?

-->I agree it is disrespectful.. Maybe in the past she was always put down because of the way she looks and has a really low self-esteem... And it's not jelousy. But she's just looking down on herself wishing she were better so she could please him when he looks at her.. And she wishes for him to look at her like she's worth the very best and no other woman is as beautiful as she is in his eyes...

Everyone is different.. Everyone has a different past.. And in a relationship they should try to be excepting of what hurts the other.. If he cares about your feelings.. He'll stop mention again.


-->If a man truly loves you he won't want to hurt you and make you jealous. I don't buy it that men are programmed to do that. I'm a woman and I feel woman let men get away with this behavior! period! no excuses


--> I think it's disrespectful for my husband to comment about other girls when I'm around. It has nothing to do with being insecure or afraid that he would cheat on me, because realistically, a strange girl he sees on the street is not going to suddenly hump him because he finds her attractive.
Not only is this disrespectful to me, I think, but also for the person he's commenting on. Women are more than how they look, and I get just as bent out of shape when he comments on a good looking woman as I would if he were commenting on an unattractive women, or an unattractive guy for that matter. I think it's sexist to think that a girl would automatically feel flattered by and okay with whatever a guy says about her as long as it's something nice about her appearance. I just think we have more to think about than if some random guy thinks we're hot.
If the girl he's with is cool with, no problem. I can see where some women would be comfortable with it, because it's not that big of deal for everyone, I just hate that it's an automatic assumption that if the girl gets pissed for being treated that way it means that she's a high strung ball of insecurities. If my husband wants to act that way around his buds, or if I'm around a bunch of dudes who aren't my husband and they act that way, that's his and their own thing, but I appreciate it if he can refrain while I'm around because I deserve common respect from him.


--> Yeah, that sounds like convo you have with your homeboys, not with your girl. I'd never tell my girlfriend that I think another chick is hot unless its LC from The Hills. But she knows that I think she's hot already so its a non-issue. It just seems disrespectful to throw that at her.

--> Well personally if its like a celeb i wouldnt mind so much but if its like random girls then thats rude. It really depends on like how his attitude about it is like if he says " shes was pretty." no big deal but if it's " DAMN!! that girl so so fuckin hot did you see the ass on her!?" and just keeps talking bout it then thats pretty much poo-tastic.
Either way tell him it bugs you. If he cares and respects you enough he will stop. If he doesnt then hes prob not worth your time.

--> Thanks Dektora, because obviously Melissa is a lot better than most women. Seriously, it's one thing to look and it's another to comment. That's pretty rude. What the hell does he gain from making his comments? What exactly is he looking for? His girlfriend to agree? He's purposely trying to make her jealous...Like all douchey guys do.

--> I think it is disrespectful to say that sort of thing in front of your girlfriend. My current boyfriend used to talk about how other girls and celebrities are hot. He told me to just "get over it" but I plainly told him that I would never talk about another hot guy, or celebrity guy that I think is attractive in his presence simply because I respect him enough not to say those sort of things. I expect that level of respect in return. It has nothing to do with being insecure. I know other women are attractive, I notice them too. But it does not need to be discussed. It is just how you would never talk about your sex life in the presence your parents. In my opinion this sort of behavior should be avoided simply because it is inappropriate.

--> My boyfriend talks about other girls sometimes. He talks about they're bra sizes. For example, last night we were on the phone and he was talking about this girl at his school, that he has told me about before (we go to different schools). He says she always wears a hoodie, but that day she didn't, and he noticed what big breasts she had. It kind of made me angry, well no, i did make me angry. Its okay if he notices other girls, but when he tells me about it, he makes me feel insecure and like he wants to be with someone else. He's also talked about his past relationships, one time he told me about his first make-out session with this girl he used to be with, in full detail! He can tell I get annoyed when he does it, and I know he wouldn't cheat on me, but it makes me feel like he is. I don't know what to do, I mean its not like I want to break up with him over this, but it makes me so mad! Its not like I don't trust him, because I do, but I just want this to stop.


--> I already asked my boyfriend after the first several times he commented on other women if I wasn't giving him enough attention. Did I misunderstand when he said he wanted a girlfriend? Does he prefer me to be one of his buddies? He said no to all three-that I was great and he loved me. Then I pointed out how every time he said something stupid in front of me about how another women looked, it put distance between us. He still doesn't get it because he still does it. I have been looking for an apartment ever since because I can't see myself with someone this dense.

--> In my personal opinion, looking is expected, and inner thoughts or comments are always okay. But verbalizing appreciation should ONLY be done when in the company of one's friends. If a girlfriend is present with her man (with other dudes or without), keep your mouth shut. It would be disrespectful to comment on another woman once you've asked THIS gal to be YOURS. It would be equally disrespectful for her to comment on other men in your presence. It may have nothing to do with jealousy or insecurity...it's about respect and dignity. Act like a man, not like an ape.
Professionally, couples will vary on what they find appropriate or inappropriate. So if there's friction or disagreement in this area, get talkin! Make your wishes or feelings known. If he/she can't respect your wishes, move it along. There are others out there who will. It isn't LOVE if he can't make small alterations for the good/wellness of the relationship.

--> I recently experienced this with my boyfriend. After putting up with it for a year, I finally told him that it hurt me. He would always tell me how much he loved me and never wanted to hurt me, and when he heard how bad I felt about it he stopped. His excuse at first was that he just wanted me to be jealous so he could feel that I loved him, but later he acknowledged that he made a stupid mistake by making the comments and told me again that he would never do anything to hurt me. I am still getting over the things he said, but our relationship is getting better because he changed.
I don't recommend ignoring it like I did because it may never stop if he thinks you don't mind or find it fun. If you love him and want the relationship to work TELL him how you feel and if he loves you he will understand how bad he is making you feel and quit. It really comes down to if you want the relationship to work or not; A happy relationship does not have room for constant pain.

--> I'm going through the same type of thing. My bf will say how pretty certain celebrities are. The other night we were at the movies and he said " now THATS a pretty woman! " , just like that. It's not just the one comment though, he also commented that he could never imagine how any guy could cheat on Sandra Bullock due to the way she looks?... and when we first met, he made sure to tell me how 'very beautiful' his ex wife was. We went to a concert a few weeks ago and he constantly was looking around, ogling at other women. I've noticed this several times. I feel kind of childish saying something about it but truly, I'm mature enough to draw my own conclusions and I know most women would be very uncomfortable with this type of behavior too. It's just rude.Some thoughts should just remain our own and if we love someone, it is our responsibility to protect their feelings.
I know he'd hate it if I did it but I wont stoop to that level or treat someone else the way I hate being treated because them I'm no better. Instead, I'll just leave him and find someone who thinks I'm the most beautiful women in the room. Yes, I want it all. 100%, because I deserve it.

-->

痛苦

好男友不会让女友烦恼，不开心。 我要的是男友把我当做是他的宝贝。他太过份了。

My last 2 days at SAA-GE

My last day at SAA-GE will be on this coming thursday which is 21 April 2011. Two more days to go... I have join here for more than six months and I have learned alot of things.. I join Student registry officer (SRO) on 4 October 2010 to 2 Jan 2011... In this department, my jd is to help international student to apply student pass via ICA solar web... Key in student particulars, need their parents employment letter n bank statement from their parents. Student certificate, birth cert etc... . Terminate/ cancellation of student student's pass. Conduct English placement test for students to test their level of English to enroll in CEP, I'm the invigilator of EPT that gives student listening test n grammar etc.... On 3 Jan 2011 I join Attendance department to monitoring international student attendance in all courses like CEP, CAT, ACCA and ATTS... Also need to issue warning letters to students below 90%.. Phone interview students and SMS student, conduct interview for students low attendance and if it rePeats,school will cancel student student's pass without informing. Conduct random check occasionally for CAT and ACCA classes .. Do spot check on student in the library to check student's pass before signing their attendance... have to be scheduled counter duty one week within a month.. During counter duty that week.. Monday is off duty.. Tues to fri comes work at ten till 7 plus closing.. Sat need to be back at 9 to 3.15pm.. Thanks to those colleagues help me n concern me during my tenure here, is my pleasure to know you all, I have to thanks to jasmine and li hong for the patience giving to me... Huifang, saedah, emmerline, Elise, serene, isabella, nelson, yeo Ai ling, li ling, magraet, naniek, Evelyn, intAn, kelly, jacequaline, laksha, Ivan yew, malcom and Zhi qiang... Michelle, etc... And thanks to my lunch kakis, yijun, Brian wong, lynnette, agnes, Maggie etc,, thanks all. I will miss you all..

我们之间有改变吗？

我不喜欢他对我这样的态度。 他对我说脏话，我不能够忍受。 我真的渴望我们的爱情是美好的。 或者他没把我当女友看与对待。 如果，或许他如果真的爱我，他会道歉然后不会犯同错。 让老天决定我的幸福。 我已经没心情做认何事情了。 对爱情没信心了，对我本身的外表更不用说。 moody....是我太单纯容易相信或被男生欺负吗？ 渴望被爱真的这么难吗？

Need to feel loved n appreciated

I'm just want to have a happy relationshiP that giving in to one another... Just a simple caring word. Is it so difficult? To ur Gf? Do u really treat her as the only girl you love? Or never? I appreciated n know that this 3 days he is beside me... but I just need him to put me in his heart. Am I overbroad? I know he dun wish to meet me daily. I understand bec he works tire already plus study .... But can he not neglect Gf feeling?? Can he don't simply say break off... u can just ignore ur Gf? Than wat kind of bf r u? Y is that u treat Gf that way when Gf just want your attention more... Does it wrong??Keep mention I'm childish but do he know I'm the type of girls need more attention. Since he chose me go be his Gf than he shall change n I shall change to better too... Not both keep quarrel...yes, I shouldn't be demanding. I just dun wish to be quarrel with this little thing... My request is simple.. If u wan me be ur Gf. Just put me in ur heart n stop quarreling... Everybody need to be care n concern. I should not talk rude to neighbor is my fault... I wish that I can talk to her on better attitude n manner... but I also hope others talk to me with better attitude n manner I wan to go Ecp u bring me go n also entertain my bro n neighbor. I know u do ur part... I'm too greedy... I shouldn't ask for more.. But I just worry I'm not in ur heart. As long as I'm in ur heart n u will not find others... N will not fall for others girls. ..

Give unconditionally

If you give because you want credit for what you have done or give, it reduces the impact of giving. Remember, true giving is unconditional. Nature gives unconditionally. The flower gives it's fragrance, and the sun it's light, without seeking anything in return. True love is to love others not because they are loveable or bec they love you, but simply bec you love... When your giving is unconditional , you receive intangible benefits. When to give? The Ans is today... To give to others, you have to give to yourself.we simply believe that all of us are happier when we strive to be better people. We also believe perfection Is impossible. But progress is possible and healthy. Giving is beautiful experience. By giving, you can live to your potential, avoid loneliness, become fearless, touch your spirit, and find meaning and fulfillment.

Honest

Be honest, a relationship cannot be based on lies. People are afraid to share the truth and often find it difficult to do so. However, honesty is a core value in the deepest and strongest relationships. Give love everyday, in everything u do. Kindness is an expression of love, care n concern. Love is active and not passive, and you should often express it. Every relationship that succeeds requires some degree of compromise on both sides. It takes courage to show love, but it is worth the effort and risk. One thing you can do for yourself and the other person is to give some thought to why the relationship is having problems. There are 9 steps to heal a damaged relationship:- make a commitment to improve it, visualize how it will be different, recognize that it may take time, and be persistent. Guys must take the initiative, recognize that you hv to change first.don't look for solutions first, look for emotions, etc. All human begins needs to be respected. One way to show deep respect is to listen attentively. When you listen actively, you understand the person talking to much better and so are able to communicated better. This let's the other person feel validated, understood and perhaps even loved. What you gives does not have to be an object or to have any tangible value. Our heartfelt giving is frequently in words-not words from our mouth but words from our heart. Not everyone knows how to give with humility. Compassion has been defined as"your pain in my heart". You cab feel someone's pain in your heart when you have taken the time to listen carefully and attentively.